In my last Tea Towel Blog (The Joy of Tea Towel Sharing: 23), I made two comments: “How can tea towels be so absolutely different?” and “There is no such thing as a boring tea towel”. No remarks could be so perfect for today’s Blog, except, of course, that “Tea towels are the ultimate form of domestic art”. Possibly odd comments, but I’m not sure how I’m going to explain all this.
I’m not much good at ‘small talk’, I’m not a party or big social occasion sort of a person. I like meeting up with people but not in large numbers. One at a time is my sort of event. For my last ‘Special’ birthday (and fortunately they don’t come along often), I had an ‘Afternoon Tea’, all home prepared, in my kitchen. We could seat 19 people around three tables. It was a delightful afternoon, eating sandwiches with their crusts off, scones and cakes and drank gallons of tea. We played quizzes for prizes. I felt prepared to embark upon a new decade. As I approached another ‘special’ birthday, I knew I didn’t want to do the same thing. Firstly, I’ve moved house and there definitely wouldn’t have been room for 19 people but also some of those original guests were no longer with us. You can’t just try and replicate things and think it will be ok. Back in April this year, I made this very clear to Liz; she already knew that I hated, really hated, the idea of a surprise party.
Come August, I knew I was ‘safe’. What I didn’t know was what she did intend to do. I had said that I wanted to go for a walk at Shugborough Estate, a National Trust property, with Liz and Pete. I’d booked a Tramper for Liz, collection time 11am. I was a bit shocked when she said “You’ll need to get up at about 6.30am.” This seemed a bit over-the-top since I knew it only took about an hour to get there. I didn’t question it, was up at 6.45am. The next thing that happened was Liz saying “I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to spoil the surprise but you need to know the background”. Surely she wasn’t organising a surprise party? “I’ll just give you this….so you’ll understand”. And she gave me this note, a long note. No wonder I had to get up early.
“Dear Barbara
Back in late April this year, you, Pete and I were sitting round the kitchen table eating and chatting. For some reason, which I can’t remember, we began talking about your ‘special’ birthday in August.
“I don’t want to do anything and I don’t want any presents” you said firmly. That’s clear, I thought, as the conversation meandered along. You (me) talked about how much you hated surprise parties and surprises in general. I think at some point Pete went back to the topic of presents.
“I don’t want anything” you re-stated, adding an offhand comment about not minding tea towels, and then laughing.
We went on to other topics but a seed had been sewn. A few days later, now early May, we met up with Jai, Roger and the grandchildren. As we were going round Wollaton Park, I mentioned my idea to Jai: “How about if we could get all our family and friends to buy tea towels,aiming for 70 tea towels for her 70th birthday?”
“Brilliant idea” said Jai “And maybe everyone could write the story of why they bought it, where it came from?”
I loved that idea and began the process of contacting people. Though I had to hold back other people’s excited ideas of a surprise party, meeting up and so on, the main response was very enthusiastic. Amanda (Barbara’s cousin) got stuck in with her usual energy and generosity and soon photos of tea towels were flying into WhatsApp from Catherine and Amanda. They were amazing. Other messages trickled through; could we do this?
That, of course, you will have to wait and see. I hope you have great fun seeing what your family and friends have sent you and that there aren’t too many duplicates. I have discovered a number of things in this process
- It’s incredibly difficult maintaining communications with other people without you (me) asking ‘Who’s that?’. I resorted to switching off WhatsApp notifications
- It’s even more difficult to stop you (me) from asking about those padded envelopes that come through the door; you’ve got a super strong radar for tea towels!
- There is no way I’d ever be able to buy you any tea towels in actual shops
So…..have fun, have the best 70th birthday ever
Liz
Having read that I was still unsure what was to happen next……cutting a long story short (because any Readers will know all the details much later on) Liz achieved getting me 143, yes 143, tea towels. Future Blogs will elaborate this in greater detail. By the time, I was due to leave for Shugborough I had only opened one box, from Amanda and Catherine, with 74 tea towels in it.
However, the first bit I will reveal is that my Aunt Catherine and Jai (and I expect a few more Tea Towel Buyers) were very successful in acquiring tea towels from Charity Shops. Jai got one from Beeston which is not far from where I live. I couldn’t believe it because, since I’ve moved to Nottingham, I have had virtually no success in buying a Charity Shop tea towel (and I have scoured the local shops). Inspired by her note with her Charity Shop tea towel I thought “Jai will not beat me at this game. I’m the expert. I’m going to Beeston to look for a tea towel”. First two shops said, categorically, that they had no tea towels. The third one, Rainbows Children’s Hospice (@RainbowsHospice), said they used to and there may be the odd one left, directing me to the linens shelf. There weren’t any there but much higher up, hidden, was a basket full of them. I picked one up and with a smug look on my face took it to the counter “I found one”.
And it is with this tea towel, crumpled from having been left on a shelf during Lockdown, bought by myself, that I start the story of my 70th Birthday, having taken the courage to admit my age.