Football has been important to me, for most of my life. This is not about playing football; I have never played football. In fact, if I’m honest, I can’t remember ever having run anywhere in my life, not even for a bus. My love of football started with my Dad, who was a Queen’s Park Rangers (QPR) fan; for many years he was a Season Ticket holder, until he became a serious bowls player and all Saturdays were taken up with bowls. He fitted in an occasional mid-week match or when there were no bowls matches. He always went with some mates of his, never took me. However, we used to listen to the football results each week. Just to be awkward, I couldn’t support QPR, so initially I ‘flirted’ with Crystal Palace as my team of choice but then I settled on Brentford Football Club.
I remember how excited Dad was when QPR won the League Cup in the 1966/67 season; my Dad’s favourite player was always Rodney Marsh. In 1966, my Dad bought our first colour television so we could watch the World Cup matches in colour. We were the first people we knew to have a colour TV so our lounge was always full of people for each match. There was often a lot of Whitbread’s Pale Ale consumed. There was ‘standing room only’ for the final. I never got a seat and had to stand by the kitchen door. It was a very noisy day! I loved it. It was then that I understood the connection that football could offer, then and now, how it could bring people together.
In 1968, I met Nick and Rory at school; we shared a love of football and went to see Brentford play every week. I was the driver so we were able to see Brentford, home and away. For Rory this was sometimes a challenge because on a Saturday morning he played rugby for the First Team at school. Often we had to ‘hotfoot’ it to the football ground. He occasionally missed a game but Nick and I were always there, standing on the terraces, in the same place each time, come rain or shine. We travelled to the far reaches of Rotherham, Crewe, Tranmere Rovers, Workington and Plymouth. Stewart Houston was my favourite player and I was devastated when he moved to Manchester United. In football, however, things move on, change and you have to love it or leave it.
In the early 70s, I worked in a pub in Ealing, the Queen Victoria. The talk was always of football. I ended up being treated to tickets to see England, at Wembley, in the build up to the 1974 World Cup. Football breaks all social barriers.
In 1984, my Dad was in Intensive Care Unit, for eight days, before he died; during that time he was in and out of consciousness. As I sat by his bed, the nurses told me to talk to him because he would be able to hear me. If any Reader has been told to do this, you will know what a ‘plonker’ you feel talking to yourself. I wanted to do it but I found it so difficult. The first thing I did was to tell him this, he smiled, he really could hear me. Then I decided to read the sports pages of the Middlesex Gazette to him, trying to make sure that I read everything to do with QPR: golf, cricket abroad, football, horse racing, rugby, snooker, bowls. It was all there. Reading about sport, especially football, did give me something to talk to him about. There were times when I thought that he must be thinking “Why doesn’t she shut up?” But I plodded on. The nurses were encouraging. One day he opened his eyes and said “Put some gin and tonic in that drip” and closed them again. Another time he asked if Liverpool had won, no idea why but the nurses were right, he could hear me.
Ever since my Dad died, I have followed the results of both QPR and Brentford. I stopped going to watch Brentford when I moved away from Ealing but not a week goes by when I don’t look up the results. Living in Leicester was interesting; Leicester City had a good, faithful following and the conversation at work was always about them, it brought people together. That is until the 2015/16 season when, against all the odds, they won the Premiership League. It was stunning with the world praising Jamie Vardy. There wasn’t a person I knew, even if they hated football, that wasn’t following the last few matches of the season (and could they do it again this season?).
In 1999, I met David, living in Hertfordshire for 40 years but originating from Aberdeen, retaining a Aberdonian accent. David enjoyed sport, both playing and watching. He played tennis, table tennis and golf but also watched football, not generically but mainly Aberdeen Football Club (The Dons). He had followed the Dons all his life. I don’t think he could ever understand why I didn’t want to play golf. Some of us are spectators and some participants and I am definitely a spectator. Every time I saw him we talked about the Dons (meant I really had to do my homework). In 2015, David had a massive stroke leaving him unable to talk or walk. The things I learnt in Ealing Hospital Intensive Care Unit came to play. When we visited his sister Jean who still lives in Aberdeen, we decided to visit the Dons Shop. In all my years I have never been to a football club shop. Each visit we bought him something: a sweat shirt, a mascot. Lyn, Liz’s sister, bought a cushion with a picture of the stadium. We took Hamish, Liz’s grandson, who bought a notepad and some pens. Everyone got Dons birthday cards. On one visit we saw a DVD of some of The Don’s finest moments. David loved it and one of the last things he did was watch that with Lyn, with a great deal of joy. David died in 2018, yet neither Liz nor I can visit Aberdeen without a trip to the Dons Shop. I have three Dons garden gnomes, a Christmas decoration, we both have scarves, gloves. Visiting there feels important, maintaining that contact with David. We can say “He would have liked that” or “We could have bought him a calendar” and remember.
When Liz took Hamish to Aberdeen in 2017, he loved the shop and it was he who spotted my first Aberdeen Football Club tea towel, designed by Gabrielle Reith. On my latest visit there was this new tea towel. I was so excited. A football shop with two tea towels; it’s like a dream come true. So I bought it. A wonderful reminder of David and his love of the Dons.
I have looked on many football club shop websites and have never seen another club tea towel, or garden gnomes come to that. I did see a 1966 World Cup Tea Towel for sale on eBay at £69; even I am not that stupid. That’s why I am now a Dons follower, because they have such great taste: three garden gnomes, two tea towels and a Christmas decoration!!! My love of football will never fade; it brings such great memories.
PS: If you know of a Football Club with it’s own tea towel, let me know!!